Thursday, 28 July 2011

If one man can show so much hate, imagine how much love we all can show together

I guess most of you have heard about the bomb in the government quarter in Oslo and the horrible massacre at the labour party youthcamp on Utøya. I posted the following first as a comment, but thought I should make it a post of it's own as well.

My husband and children are okay, but I'm sad to say that my cousin's 17 year old son was killed on the Utøya island together with almost 70 others. They came from all over the country, and we're so few here in Norway, so I don't think there's many of us who don't know of someone that was killed that day.

We were in Wales with no TV or newspapers when my mother called, telling us about the bomb and the massacre on the youth camp, and we didn't come home until recently.

But it has been a comfort to see the way the Norwegian people have been mourning. There has been huge gatherings of more than hundred thousand people with roses holding hands. And there has been no talk about revenge, but about not letting the massacre destroy our Norwegian values, the open, egalitarian society we cherish. A young girl said the most quoted sentence these last days "If one man can show so much hate, imagine how much love we all can show together"
But of course, the real test will come in the long run.

29 comments:

TreeFeathers said...

Oh Helene, I'm so sorry for your personal loss and for all of you in Norway. My thoughts are with you.

- Grace

Maru said...

Helene, I'm so sorry for the loss of your nephew. I have felt what had happened in Norway in part as on my own because I am bound by family ties with your country, and this is reflected in my blog. I know what you can feel right now because 13 years ago I lost one of my best friends of my childhood here in Seville murdered by ETA. God wanted that this night I were not with her. I would like to feel the embrace and love that I send from my heart.
A big kiss for you and all your loved ones.

Maru said...

Sorry, I said nephew for cousin.

Daydreamer said...

Dear Helene, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your cousin's son. There are no words to heal that kind of loss. My niece lost one of her close friends at the Virginia Tech shootings a few years ago. She mourns still. I hope you will be able to comfort your relatives and help them to heal. My thoughts are with you.

My Realitty said...

We are holding your hands and standing beside you. C

Hunky Dory said...

Peace be with you and yours as you deal with this terrible tragedy. And, yes, the girl is right, just imagine what love can do. Sending love across the ocean to you. Doris

Neomig said...

We here in Israel are shocked about these news, but unfortunately, know situations like that just too well from recent past....
Please accept my true condolences.
Neomi

Oese said...

Ich bin so so traurig, Helene.

Lena said...

Helene, det är så fruktansvärt det som hänt och så sorgligt. Tankarna finns hos er. Många kramar till dej och din familj!

Lena!

rosanna said...

Helene, when I saw the news on tv I wondered about Norwigian bloggers, their families and children but I didn't have the heart to ask.
It seems so incredible, so gruesome, so evil that it's hard to believe.
Accept my condolecences , they come from a mum's heart and those kids on that island and the people in Oslo are part of family now.
Please believe that the Norwigian people attitude has won even more my respect.
Big hugs to you and your family, Rosanna

diepuppenstubensammlerin said...

In July last year we were mourning all those young people killed at the love parade in my hometown and this year's summer there are all those innocent young people in Norway - so much grief.

Nicola said...

Dear Helene - I feel with you and your family!! All this makes me so speachless... :(

I´m thinking of you!!

Hugs, Nicola

Rebecca said...

Dear Helene, I have been thinking of you and Trond and the children. I thought that you would still be in the UK yourselves - but an attack like this hurts everyone in the country. I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin's loss. As you say, in a small population, everyone knows someone - but by targeting a youth conference, where young people from all over Norway had gathered, it seems calculated to hurt as many people, as many regions, as possible. So cold and inhuman.
Stay strong in your Norwegian values, and know that you have love and support from all over the world. Love and hugs to you all, Rebecca

Pubdoll said...

Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts, I'm so lucky to be part of such a warm and loving blog-community!

Maru and Betsy, I'm also very sad to hear about your losses! And I pray and hope there will be peace in your country soon Neomig! Blogging really makes the world smaller, doesn't it, making events far away feel so close.

Pubdoll said...

Thank you so much Rebecca, love and hugs to you as well.

According to the killer, the main target for the bomb and massacre was the labour party, who he thought to be responsible for our immigration politic. His aim was to wipe out the next generation of labour politicians.
Today I read a heart-wrenching comment that made me cry, from a little muslim girl that felt guilt for the massacre, since the killer shot them because he thought there were too many muslims in our country (which there of course arent't!)

The good thing that has come out of this that it has unified the country. Muslims, christians, Norwegians, immigrants, we all mourn together. Hopefully it will last.

Plushpussycat said...

Your post brought tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry for your personal and country's loss. But there is hope.
Jennifer

H. Bean said...

So sorry to hear about the loss to your family, my heart goes out to everyone in Norway.

Norma said...

My heartfelt condolences to your family in your loss Helene, made all the more painful by the senselessness of the act that caused it. Let's hope that indeed it will make the values the Norwegian nation holds dear grow stronger not weaker. A special hug to you xx

Amy said...

Oh Helene, I am so so sorry to hear about your cousin's son. I am waiting and praying for the day that we don't ever have to know this kind of loss, in your beautiful country, in everyone's beautiful country. I want a world were one person's terrible ideas cannot inflict pain onto anyone else, especially people gathered together to enjoy each other, to learn from each other, to be open with each other.

Pubdoll said...

Thank you Plushpussycat, H.Bean, Norma and Amy.
Though feeling sad for the loss of so many lives, and for my cousin and her family, I also feel blessed receiving so much warmth and support from you all!

dale's dreams said...

Such a horrible, horrible tragedy. I'm so sorry for your loss dear. :(

I agree with the young girl quoted.

Modern MC said...

Helene...I don't know what to say. I'm sorry and angry about all of this. Sending you, your entire family and everyone in Norway much support and wishes for healing and peace.

Mini Dork said...

Dear Helene, I am so sorry for your family's loss and your country's. Its such a horrific tragedy to such a peaceful people and country. Wishing you and yours love and peace.

Pepper said...

Helene,
I am so sorry to hear of your families loss. Such a horrific tragedy...I cannot imagine what you are all going through. Sending you, your family and Norway my sincerest condolences and hopes for happier times

Neomig said...

Dear Helene
How are you ? I often think of you, and can understand you don't feel like minis lately. True life is overwhelming . How is your family?
Here where I live we have ups and downs all the time and unfortunately know too well crisis and grief and tragedy.
Neomi

The House of Lisa said...

I send you condolences from Sweden!

Nicola said...

Dear Helene,

I just want to send a little hello & a christmas hug to you and your family ♥ I hope you are doing a bit better after all this grief in your family?

Miss you, yours Nicola

Daydreamer said...

Hi Helene. I've been thinking of you! I am hoping you are well and busy and able to enjoy this Holiday Season. I know that may sound harsh in the face of your Family's loss. But my prayers are that you are finding healing and joy in this Season.

Sans! said...

Dearie, I miss you !

Will you be back to bloagland anytime soon?

In case I don't hear from you before Xmas, have a great one :).

Many of us are thinking of you!